WHAT IS SELF-DEFENSE?
Your personal safety is something you should take the time to learn about.
There are several dimensions to self-defense and personal safety.
First, find resources and safety services at your place of work, your school campus, or any other place you spend a significant amount of time.
Second, think about the places and times that could be dangerous. Take measures to avoid these and keep yourself, your family, your friends out of harm’s way.
Third, help yourself, a family member, or a friend, leave an abusive relationship.
Fourth, find and enroll in a self-defense course in your area.
Lastly, lean about safety devices. Do they really protect you? Do you know how to use it? Is it legal to carry on you?
Resources & Safety Services that may be available:
Why you should defend yourself
If someone has mal-intent (plans to harm) you, it would be helpful for you to know how to defend yourself. Because the possible offender is not expecting you to know what to do in the event of an attack, you will have one up on them. This means you’ll have an advantage that others may not. This is a good thing! You may be scared that you are not strong enough or the person that is trying to hurt you may do more damage if you try and fight back. This is common. However, learning how to be aware, as well as some self-defense techniques and building confidence may save your life!
Ask yourself these questions:
- Would you rather ‘just deal with it’ if a situation arises?
- Would you just like to think that you could simply “talk or reason” with the assailant”? thus eliminating the necessity of learning skills for safety?
Self-defense training can increase your options and help you prepare responses to slow down, de-escalate, or interrupt an attack. Like a muscle or any tool, the more you know about it, the better prepared you become should you need it. Knowledge is power!!
“The best fight you have ever had is the one you were never in!”
Perhaps you have heard the following myths, or have even thought of them yourself:
- If someone tries to mess with me I’ll just punch him in the balls!
- If I am ever attacked, I will just try to reason with them and give them what they want – surely they will go away.
- If I am attacked, I will scream at the top of my lungs and just try to avoid getting in the car.
- If I am attacked, I will pretend that my boyfriend/girlfriend is on the phone with me. I always carry my cell phone in my hand for that very purpose.
- I won’t be attacked – I carry Mace with me at all times.
- It won’t happen to me. That kind of stuff only happens in movies or in cities prone to such things.
- I have no idea what I would do if I was attacked.
The problem with all these thoughts is that they are all absolutely ineffective, and they leave you with no real plan. During an unwanted encounter, or a situation that is escalating in a negative way, you only have seconds to act, and the list above won’t save your life against someone who is aiming to do you harm – or worse.
Learning personal awareness and self-protection gives you the upper edge you wouldn’t have if you didn’t learn this information. Your assailant is caught off guard, and you have a much better chance to escape!
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